The truth is we have all been designed fully equipped to do exactly what we are suppose to do. You my friend are purposed. You are the most essential key to the greater designation assigned to you. In you is the intuitive road map  willing to navigate you, lead you and guide you to be exactly who you are already. Of course it’s not that easy to tune in to your inner guidance, especially when your self-focus gets so easily distracted by  insecurities, pessimism, and jealousy. Comparison is the thief of joy, but I also add that senseless competition is destructive to your destiny.

“There is no competition unless it’s against yourself”

Quit wasting time scrolling through your social media vicariously living through someone else’s life, while yours sits idle or running behind itself in circles. I wonder if Oprah is silently stalking Ellen’s page and secretly comparing herself or vice versa. I doubt it. Why? Because they both understand their positioning. I’m sure Oprah isn’t thinking of a way to come out dancing on a stage that wasn’t built for her, to an audience irrelevant to her. In the same way, you  have our own platform with your own audience.You have your unique gifts, skills, experience, and culture which shapes and molds you into your distinctiveness.

Don’t fail to realize that these traits can be used even in your place of employment. Your talents, skills, and experience should not only be reserved for your personal gain. These characteristics should be used as you serve others, including your boss, coworkers and customers. Your gifts will make room for you. You’ll be surprised to see how implementing your personal touch at work can make a world of difference for you and those around you. It doesn’t matter if you are in an office or dropping fries. Don’t let your insecurities and doubts make a fool of you and worse off make you waste your precious time and gifts. Don’t shape shift in effort to stand out against anyone. Stop creating competition when no one can compete with you.

“Be more focused on what you want and who you desire to be more than anything else”

The reason why you are stuck—the reason why you are where you don’t want to be is because of you. There is nothing more powerful outside of you than what is inside of you.

You are bearing the fruit of  what is planted in you. If you are changing your mind every other hour, it’s the seed of inconsistency bearing its fruit in your life. If your emotions are up and down, then it’s the seed of depression bearing fruit. If you feel yourself  constantly comparing yourself, your work, your process with someone else’s than it is jealousy becoming a growing roots and fruits in your life. My hope for you  is to get to the point in your life where you are frustrated with being basic. I pray that the frustration leads you to a mental point where you refuse to live your life with the lies imposed to you by society, inclusive of your friends, your family, and especially yourself. You have to see past your limitations. You have to go beyond the excuses and do you the best way you can.

Take care of yourself and your destiny, because life can go on without you—but it will miss out on something special. You have divine permission and authority to show up and show out. Live life your way, but do it with Grace.

Love, Light and Laughter

-Kisha Payen